So why start a company called Grief Reiki®? This is VERY different than what I have been doing for the last 30 years so why even make a change? When I told a few people that I what I was planning to do, someone told me focusing on grief sounded depressing. Maybe it does but how many of us haven’t had a grief event in our lives? Just about EVERYBODY. And how well did we deal with that grief? From personal experience I’d say NOT VERY WELL. It seems that no one wants to address it, talk about it or be around someone who is grieving. It’s ok, most of us would admit we’ve all done it. You see someone at work who just lost their husband so, because you don’t know what to say, you take the long way back to your office to avoid that person. It’s not that we don’t want to help a griever, we just don’t know how.
After the suicides of two of my close friends, it baffled me how many people either avoided me or didn’t want to talk to me. Some people even referred to one of the suicides as “the event” because they couldn’t wrap their head around the fact that someone would take their own life. Well quite frankly I couldn’t either. I wanted to talk about it to try and make sense of it all but it seemed like it was “never the right time” to bring it up with people. Why inflict my difficulties on them. Isn’t that what society teaches us? Don’t burden others. Keep it to yourself. So I took a deep breath and tried to work through the grief on my own. Once the fog cleared and I really thought about it, it seemed like “not wanting to talk about it” was the same response you get for other loss events like divorce, miscarriage, death of a pet, etc. People are truly sorry you are dealing with the loss but no one really knows what to do or say. Seemed to me like there had to be a better way.
As for Reiki, I had no idea what the heck it was anyway? Sounded like some New Age mumbo jumbo. Not my thing. But since the universe has a way of bringing something to us when we need it most, l stumbled upon it quite unexpectedly. I saw a business card on the bulletin board at a local coffee shop with an angel on it. On the card it said STRESS MANAGEMENT. Something inside me said to take card and call the number. I was going thru a stressful time at work and wanted to find a way to relax/decompress so I thought I had nothing to lose if I made an appointment. Stress management and relaxation was exactly what I needed. And that’s what I got at my first appointment – relaxation and peace. I felt wonderful. Once I moved back to CA, I decided to learn more and take a few classes. I learned how to practice Reiki on myself (to keep myself “relaxed and peaceful” at work) and eventually I learned how to help others. I became a Reiki Master in 2010. I was drawn to Reiki because it gave me a sense of peace through some difficult and stressful times in my life.
After all this, it finally seemed to me that taking a multidimensional approach to grief could help others. Besides, who doesn’t want to feel better? Who doesn’t want to address their unresolved grief and finally move on? Who doesn’t want to feel relaxed and relieved of stress (whether or not it is caused by grief)? The intent for Grief Reiki, LCC is to provide a positive place for people to recover and heal both emotionally and spiritually.
And that is how Grief Reiki, LLC was born.
Sending you love, comfort and peace!