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Helping Children With Grief

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How can we better help children with grief? As a society we haven’t done a very good job. We encourage children to express joy when they are happy; but we discourage them from expressing their sadness when they are unhappy. These mixed messages have contributed to most of us growing into adults who try to cover up our heartbreak. We walk around pretending we are okay; or worse yet, we turn to short term energy-relieving behaviors (like alcohol, drugs, shopping, anger, etc.) to “numb the pain.” These behaviors do little to help address our grief in the long run.

MOST COMMON CHILDHOOD LOSSES 

The Grief Recovery Method® lists the following as the most common losses experienced by a child:

Death of a pet

Death of a grandparent

Major move

Divorce of parents

Death of a parent

How can we better help our children grow into adults who can deal with these losses? It may be hard for many of us to change, but our children need us to take the lead when it comes to loss. We have to learn to replace our old behaviors with new ones when it comes to grief. This means we need to look long and hard about how we deal with and react to loss in our own lives. If we can do that, our children have more of chance of being successful in their own lives. The book When Children Grieve states, “Establishing a foundation for effectively dealing with loss can be one of the greatest gifts you give you child.”

WAYS TO HELP A GRIEVING CHILD

Here are six ways you can help a child who is grieving:

Allow all emotions to be expressed, without judgment, criticism, or analysis.

Avoid the trap of asking a child what is wrong since he or she will automatically say, “Nothing.”

Adults – Go first. Telling the truth about your own grief will make your child feel safe in opening up about his or her own feelings.

Remember the reaction a child has is unique to them. If you have more than one child, respect that each of their reactions will probably be different.

Acknowledge your child’s emotions before addressing the facts.  Listen with your heart and not your head. If your child brings up the same issue over and over again, it means they are not being heard.

Make sure your verbal and non-verbal communications match. Children may respond incorrectly to their loss if they feel you are teaching them to “do as I say, not as I do.”

Our children look up to us. They tend to do as we do. It’s important that as adults, we communicate accurately about our emotions so that our children can see, copy and learn. Helping them will ensure they can more effectively deal with grief and loss events throughout their lives.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Grief Recovery Support Groups

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Grief Reiki® LLC offers the following The Grief Recovery Method® Support Groups to help participants deal with a loss of any kind. While death and divorce may seem to be the most obvious losses, courses are not limited to those losses. There are more than 43 life events that can produce feelings of grief.

What Makes Us Different

We focus on recovery from unresolved grief.

We are an educational program not counseling or therapy.

We address the emotional not intellectual side of grief.

We provide a structured action plan.

We require commitment to recovery.

We are not a “Drop In” support group.

What We Offer

The Grief Recovery Method® provides a safe environment for you to look at your old beliefs about dealing with loss, and provide actions that will lead you to complete unresolved emotions that may still be causing you pain. As a trained and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, we will facilitate your journey with compassion and confidentiality.

Individual and Group Sessions

Outcome: Assists recovery from loss by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Our job is to explain those action choices and guide the participants in taking them.

Length:  Individual Sessions (1 hour for 7 weeks) or Group Sessions (2 hours for 8 weeks)

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Loss History Graph; Relationship Graph; and Completion Letter.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments.

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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Dealing with Pet Loss

Outcome: Helps grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, how to have fond memories of their beloved pet not turn painful.

Length – 2 hours for 6 weeks

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Pet Loss History Graph; Pet Relationship Graph; and Pet Completion Letter.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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When Children Grieve

Outcome: Assists parents/guardians by providing them with directions and guidelines to help their child’s recovery from loss.

Length: 2 hours for 6 weeks

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief;Concepts of Recovery;How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Emotional Energy Checklist; Moving, Divorce and Other Losses; The “D” Word”; Learning to Avoid Incorrect Language; and Taking Children to Funerals.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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How to Register/Schedule

Go to: Grief Reiki Online Scheduling Tool

Pick an course option and complete one of our online Client Forms.

We accept payments through PayPal.

For other payment options, please call our office at (800) 458-7348.

All classes/sessions are held in our facility located at:

“The Edge”, 877 N. Douglas St., El Segundo, CA 90245

There is plenty of free parking.

Once you register/schedule, you will receive a confirmation email with more details.

We look forward to having you join us!

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!

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Grief Educational Courses

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Grief Reiki® LLC offers the following The Grief Recovery Method® educational courses to help participants deal with a loss of any kind. While death and divorce may seem to be the most obvious losses, courses are not limited to those losses. There are more than 43 life events that can produce feelings of grief.

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What is The Grief Recovery Method?

The Grief Recovery Method® provides a safe environment for you to look at their old beliefs about dealing with loss, and provide actions that will lead you to complete unresolved emotions that may still be causing you pain. As a trained and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, we will facilitate your journey with compassion and confidentiality.

  • Founded almost 30 years ago by John James and Russell Friedman
  • Developed by The Grief Institute®, which provides training coast-to-coast, border-to-border in the United States and Canada with affiliates in Australia, Mexico, Sweden, and the United Kingdom
  • Action program moving beyond death, divorce and other losses
  • Helps participants complete their relationship to the pain, isolation, and loneliness caused by significant emotional loss

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What Makes Us Different

  • We focus on recovery from unresolved grief
  • We are an educational program not counseling or therapy
  • We address the emotional not intellectual side of grief
  • We provide a structured action plan
  • We require commitment to recovery
  • We are not a “Drop In” support group

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Who is it for?

Anyone who suffers from grief no matter what the cause.

  • Grief is one of the most taboo subjects in America
  • Most people aren’t sure what they should do or how they should feel after the death of a loved one
  • There are too many urban legends about grief and its stages which can cause confusion
  • There are over 43 losses that contribute to the range of emotions called grief
  • We are taught to deal with grief intellectually, not emotionally

If you:

  • Have experienced any emotional losses
  • Have a broken heart
  • And want to feel better

This educational program is for you.

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Grief Educational Courses

We offer the following Grief Recovery Method® educational courses:

  • Individual Sessions (1 hour for 7 Weeks)
  • Group Sessions (2 hours for 8 Weeks)
  • Helping Children Grieve (2 hours for 6 Weeks)
  • Dealing with Pet Loss (2 hours for 6 Weeks)

We feel it is important to make our Grief Recovery educational courses available to everyone and according to each person’s personal and financial circumstances. All we request is a $25 deposit to register and cover the costs of course materials. We suggest a voluntary donation (amount at your discretion) for each class. A portion of all donations received goes to charity. Here’s how you help charity when you donate:

Charities supported: 

Wounded WarriorsDidi Hirsch Suicide Prevention and Rita’s Rainbows.

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Individual and Group Sessions

  • Outcome: Assists recovery from loss by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Our job is to explain those action choices and guide the participants in taking them.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Loss History Graph; Relationship Graph; and Completion Letter.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments.
  • Course Material (included)grief_recover_handbook1

When Children Grieve

  • Outcome: Assists parents/guardians by providing them with directions and guidelines to help their child’s recovery from loss.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief;Concepts of Recovery;How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Emotional Energy Checklist; Moving, Divorce and Other Losses; The “D” Word”; Learning to Avoid Incorrect Language; and Taking Children to Funerals.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments
  • Course Material (included):

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Dealing with Pet Loss

  • Outcome: Helps grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, how to have fond memories of their beloved pet not turn painful.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Pet Loss History Graph; Pet Relationship Graph; and Pet Completion Letter.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments
  • Course Material (included):

Pet Loss

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How to Register/Schedule

Go to: Grief Reiki Online Scheduling Tool

Pick an course option and complete one of our online Client Forms.

$25 deposit required to register for any Grief Recovery course.

We accept payments through PayPal.

For other payment options, please call our office at (800) 458-7348.

All classes/sessions are held in our facility located at:

“The Edge”, 877 N. Douglas St., El Segundo, CA 90245.

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There is plenty of free parking.

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Once you register/schedule, you will receive a confirmation email with more details.

We look forward to having you join us!

Grief Reiki® LLC

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For More Information

Watch this video about the Grief Recovery Method Educational/Outreach Program.


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