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How To Help The Newly Bereaved

Grief Diaries: How To Help The Newly Bereaved

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Released in April 2016, Grief Reiki® is a proud contributor to Grief Diaries: How to Help the Newly Bereaved

When someone loses a loved one, what do you say? What can you do? How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a powerful guidebook of suggestions and tips by 22 experts, the bereaved themselves, who share the support they found most and least helpful when they faced their own loss. Chock full of thoughtful insight and wise advice, How to Help the Newly Bereaved offers straight talk to increase your confidence and comfort around the bereaved and arm you with a toolbox of forget-me-nots and insight as you support someone during the most difficult time in their life.

Every day those of us who work in the bereavement field hear, “Neighbor Betty lost a loved one. What can I do? What do I say?” Those two questions seem so simple, but the answers are very complex. And here is why: losing a loved one is a heartbreak unlike any other experience. There is no guidebook, there are no roadmaps. And to further complicate matters, no two losses are the same. Which makes it a very difficult language to teach on any level.

A universal experience as old as mankind, the journey remains a great mystery to those who haven’t yet walked in our shoes. In a day when technology is rapidly changing, you would think we would be better prepared. But we’re not. It remains uncomfortable to discuss death and loss in many cultures. People of all ages fear their own mortality. Which leaves them ill equipped to help someone else.

Until now. How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a guidebook on how to help the newly bereaved. But because every loss is as unique as one’s fingerprint, this book is created using the perspectives of twenty-two individuals who have been down that road. Who better to tell youwhat to do, what to say, than the experts themselves? Besides offering suggestions, we help you understand our journey. Why do we cry one minute and laugh the next? What brings us comfort? What do we fear?

Reviews

“BRILLIANT . . . How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a critically important collection of tips and suggestions written by the best of experts, the bereaved themselves. Who better to instruct family and friends on how to be helpful in the aftermath? Just brilliant.” -MARY LEE ROBINSON, Certified Grief Coach, Author, and Founder of Set an Extra Plate initiative

“An Excellent And Much Needed Book With Great Advice….This is not only excellent advice for how to help the newly bereaved, it also indirectly helps people know what to expect in the future when they are the ones who are bereaved. I sure wish this book had been available when my youngest sister died in 2012. It would have helped immensely. I also wish that everyone who said something that upset the other members of the online support groups that I am in would have had this book as well. As maybe some of that upset could have been avoided. I cannot possibly convey how much this book is needed!” -AMAZON REVIEWER

How to Help the Newly Bereaved on Amazon

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Loss of a Loved One

Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

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Released in December 2015, Grief Reiki® is a proud contributor to Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

Part of the Grief Diaries series dedicated to offering comfort, company and hope in the aftermath of life’s challenges and losses, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is a collection of intimate and candid narrations from different writers about losses from different angles including step-parents, uncles, best friends, cousins, grandchildren, and more. In chapter one, each writer bravely penned the moment when their familiar lives disappeared along with their loved one’s last breath. The writers were then presented with intimate questions pertaining to their loss, and their responses are compiled within the individual chapters. These narrations are unabridged, as every voice is unique. But no matter the differences, the stories contained in each Grief Diaries book is a treasured reminder that none of us walk the journey alone. Welcome to the Grief Diaries village, where grief transcends all differences and unites us in the aftermath. Welcome, bereaved friend, to company, comfort and hope.

Losing someone we love is a heartbreak unlike any other experience. Because love comes in many forms, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is dedicated to sharing the stories of losing cousins, uncles, nieces, grandchildren, best friends, partners, and more. When we swap stories, it helps us to feel less alone. This book is like your own portable support group, open 24/7. It offers an intimate collection of stories by people around the world who have all walked in your shoes. Consider this book one of your bereavement tools, and pull it out whenever you need. For no matter the age, the circumstance, or number of days since your parent passed, the stories contained within this book offer company, comfort and hope, and are a treasured reminder that none of us walk this journey alone.

Reviews

“CRITICALLY IMPORTANT . . . I want to say  what you are doing is so critically important.” -DR. BERNICE A. KING, Daughter of Dr. Martin Luther King

“STUNNING . . . Grief Diaries treats the reader to a rare combination of candor and fragility through the eyes of the bereaved. Delving into the deepest recesses of the heartbroken, the reader easily identifies with the diverse collection of stories and richly colored threads of profound love that create a stunning read full of comfort and hope.” -DR. GLORIA HORSLEY, Founder & President of Open to Hope Foundation

“A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WHO HAS LOST A LOVED ONE…Grief is such a difficult topic yet the writers in this book are so unbelievably brave to tell their individual stories. Each chapter gives the reader insight into what they were thinking and feeling during such a difficult and painful time in their lives. The stories are inspirational, heartfelt and hopeful. Every person who has grieved the loss of a loved one but feels alone needs to read these stories so they don’t feel so isolated. This is a must read for anyone who has lost anyone they have loved. Thank you Grief Diaries for bringing this difficult topic as well the others in this important anthology into our homes and hearts..” AMAZON REVIEWER

Loss of a Loved One on Amazon

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What is “Grief Reiki®?

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So why start a company called Grief Reiki®? This is VERY different than what I have been doing for the last 30 years so why even make a change? When I told a few people that I what I was planning to do, someone told me focusing on grief sounded depressing.  Maybe it does but how many of us haven’t had a grief event in our lives? Just about EVERYBODY. And how well did we deal with that grief?  From personal experience I’d say NOT VERY WELL. It seems that no one wants to address it, talk about it or be around someone who is grieving. It’s ok, most of us would admit we’ve all done it. You see someone at work who just lost their husband so, because you don’t know what to say, you take the long way back to your office to avoid that person. It’s not that we don’t want to help a griever, we just don’t know how.

After the suicides of two of my close friends, it baffled me how many people either avoided me or didn’t want to talk to me. Some people even referred to one of the suicides as “the event” because they couldn’t wrap their head around the fact that someone would take their own life. Well quite frankly I couldn’t either.  I wanted to talk about it to try and make sense of it all but it seemed like it was “never the right time” to bring it up with people.  Why inflict my difficulties on them. Isn’t that what society teaches us? Don’t burden others. Keep it to yourself. So I took a deep breath and tried to work through the grief on my own.  Once the fog cleared and I really thought about it, it seemed like “not wanting to talk about it” was the same response you get for other loss events like  divorce, miscarriage, death of a pet, etc. People are truly sorry you are dealing with the loss but no one really knows what to do or say. Seemed to me like there had to be a better way.

As for Reiki, I had no idea what the heck it was anyway? Sounded like some New Age mumbo jumbo. Not my thing. But since the universe has a way of bringing something to us when we need it most, l stumbled upon it quite unexpectedly. I saw a business card on the bulletin board at a local coffee shop with an angel on it. On the card it said  STRESS MANAGEMENT. Something inside me said to take card and call the number. I was going thru a stressful time at work and wanted to find a way to relax/decompress so I thought I had nothing to lose if I made an appointment. Stress management and relaxation was exactly what I needed. And that’s what I got at my first appointment – relaxation and peace. I felt wonderful. Once I moved back to CA, I decided to learn more and take a few classes. I learned how to practice Reiki on myself (to keep myself “relaxed and peaceful” at work) and eventually I learned how to help others. I became a Reiki Master in 2010. I was drawn to Reiki because it gave me a sense of peace through some difficult and stressful times in my life.

After all this, it finally seemed to me that taking a multidimensional approach to grief could help others. Besides, who doesn’t want to feel better? Who doesn’t want to address their unresolved grief and finally move on? Who doesn’t want to feel relaxed and relieved of stress (whether or not it is caused by grief)? The intent for Grief Reiki, LCC is to provide a positive place for people to recover and heal both emotionally and spiritually.

And that is how Grief Reiki, LLC was born.

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