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How To Help The Newly Bereaved

Grief Diaries: How To Help The Newly Bereaved

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Released in April 2016, Grief Reiki® is a proud contributor to Grief Diaries: How to Help the Newly Bereaved

When someone loses a loved one, what do you say? What can you do? How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a powerful guidebook of suggestions and tips by 22 experts, the bereaved themselves, who share the support they found most and least helpful when they faced their own loss. Chock full of thoughtful insight and wise advice, How to Help the Newly Bereaved offers straight talk to increase your confidence and comfort around the bereaved and arm you with a toolbox of forget-me-nots and insight as you support someone during the most difficult time in their life.

Every day those of us who work in the bereavement field hear, “Neighbor Betty lost a loved one. What can I do? What do I say?” Those two questions seem so simple, but the answers are very complex. And here is why: losing a loved one is a heartbreak unlike any other experience. There is no guidebook, there are no roadmaps. And to further complicate matters, no two losses are the same. Which makes it a very difficult language to teach on any level.

A universal experience as old as mankind, the journey remains a great mystery to those who haven’t yet walked in our shoes. In a day when technology is rapidly changing, you would think we would be better prepared. But we’re not. It remains uncomfortable to discuss death and loss in many cultures. People of all ages fear their own mortality. Which leaves them ill equipped to help someone else.

Until now. How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a guidebook on how to help the newly bereaved. But because every loss is as unique as one’s fingerprint, this book is created using the perspectives of twenty-two individuals who have been down that road. Who better to tell youwhat to do, what to say, than the experts themselves? Besides offering suggestions, we help you understand our journey. Why do we cry one minute and laugh the next? What brings us comfort? What do we fear?

Reviews

“BRILLIANT . . . How to Help the Newly Bereaved is a critically important collection of tips and suggestions written by the best of experts, the bereaved themselves. Who better to instruct family and friends on how to be helpful in the aftermath? Just brilliant.” -MARY LEE ROBINSON, Certified Grief Coach, Author, and Founder of Set an Extra Plate initiative

“An Excellent And Much Needed Book With Great Advice….This is not only excellent advice for how to help the newly bereaved, it also indirectly helps people know what to expect in the future when they are the ones who are bereaved. I sure wish this book had been available when my youngest sister died in 2012. It would have helped immensely. I also wish that everyone who said something that upset the other members of the online support groups that I am in would have had this book as well. As maybe some of that upset could have been avoided. I cannot possibly convey how much this book is needed!” -AMAZON REVIEWER

How to Help the Newly Bereaved on Amazon

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Loss of a Loved One

Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

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Released in December 2015, Grief Reiki® is a proud contributor to Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

Part of the Grief Diaries series dedicated to offering comfort, company and hope in the aftermath of life’s challenges and losses, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is a collection of intimate and candid narrations from different writers about losses from different angles including step-parents, uncles, best friends, cousins, grandchildren, and more. In chapter one, each writer bravely penned the moment when their familiar lives disappeared along with their loved one’s last breath. The writers were then presented with intimate questions pertaining to their loss, and their responses are compiled within the individual chapters. These narrations are unabridged, as every voice is unique. But no matter the differences, the stories contained in each Grief Diaries book is a treasured reminder that none of us walk the journey alone. Welcome to the Grief Diaries village, where grief transcends all differences and unites us in the aftermath. Welcome, bereaved friend, to company, comfort and hope.

Losing someone we love is a heartbreak unlike any other experience. Because love comes in many forms, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is dedicated to sharing the stories of losing cousins, uncles, nieces, grandchildren, best friends, partners, and more. When we swap stories, it helps us to feel less alone. This book is like your own portable support group, open 24/7. It offers an intimate collection of stories by people around the world who have all walked in your shoes. Consider this book one of your bereavement tools, and pull it out whenever you need. For no matter the age, the circumstance, or number of days since your parent passed, the stories contained within this book offer company, comfort and hope, and are a treasured reminder that none of us walk this journey alone.

Reviews

“CRITICALLY IMPORTANT . . . I want to say  what you are doing is so critically important.” -DR. BERNICE A. KING, Daughter of Dr. Martin Luther King

“STUNNING . . . Grief Diaries treats the reader to a rare combination of candor and fragility through the eyes of the bereaved. Delving into the deepest recesses of the heartbroken, the reader easily identifies with the diverse collection of stories and richly colored threads of profound love that create a stunning read full of comfort and hope.” -DR. GLORIA HORSLEY, Founder & President of Open to Hope Foundation

“A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WHO HAS LOST A LOVED ONE…Grief is such a difficult topic yet the writers in this book are so unbelievably brave to tell their individual stories. Each chapter gives the reader insight into what they were thinking and feeling during such a difficult and painful time in their lives. The stories are inspirational, heartfelt and hopeful. Every person who has grieved the loss of a loved one but feels alone needs to read these stories so they don’t feel so isolated. This is a must read for anyone who has lost anyone they have loved. Thank you Grief Diaries for bringing this difficult topic as well the others in this important anthology into our homes and hearts..” AMAZON REVIEWER

Loss of a Loved One on Amazon

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Grief Reiki® Card Reading

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The Grief Reiki® Card Reading was my way of trying to pull together comforting thoughts and words for a griever in a non-traditional format. The approach is to Pick-A-Card that jumps out at you. Whatever number comes into your head first. Or just go with your gut. Now read the message corresponding to the card you picked.

I have found we usually get the message we need to hear most.

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Today's Messages (1)

Card Deck (Ask For Help)

If you picked Card #1: Today’s message reminds you that it is okay to ask for help especially when you are grieving. When things are “normal” we run around like superman and superwoman. We multi-task all day and collapse exhausted in bed at night. But when we are grieving our whole world is turned upside down. We can’t think. We can’t react. We can’t speak. We can’t sleep. Grievers have a higher incident of illness and accidents due to these facts. Trying to do everything yourself is just asking for trouble. Reach out. Even if it is just asking someone to sit with you while you talk or cry. Maybe it’s having someone drop off dinner on their way home from work because you forgot to eat all day. Maybe it’s asking another parent to take the kids for a few hours so you can actually get some much needed sleep. Asking for help when you are grieving is far better, definitely safer and certainly healthier for you than trying to handle everything yourself!

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Today's Messages (2)

Card Deck (Love)

If you picked Card #2: Today’s message is a reminder that the bond of love is so strong which is why grieving is so hard. Usually the intensity of our grief usually correlates to the intensity of our love. If you accept this fact, you realize that feeling so terribly heartbroken when a loved one dies is completely normal. Love is one of our strongest emotions. Grief is our emotional reaction to loss. Grieving for someone you loved is like a double whammy. That’s why it is impossible to put into words how you are feeling. How do you begin to describe it? Empty? Broken into a million pieces? Heartsick? Don’t be hard on yourself during this time. Don’t listen to anyone else who tells you  are “over-reacting” or “overly emotional” (especially if it is a pet). After all, the relationship between you and your deceased love one is yours and yours alone. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to cry. No one else can or should understand how you are feeling. Acknowledge the great love between you and your loved one and the beautiful gift it has been to your life.

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Today's Messages (3)

Card Deck (Nature)-2

If you picked Card #3: Today’s message is a reminder to get outside to rejuvenate and refresh you. Grief is an energy-depleting emotion. We can’t do very well on a day-to-day basis without energy. If you are parent, you really can’t afford to have less energy than your children or they’ll be eating ding-dongs for dinner and you’ll never know it. When we are out in nature our energy is replenished. Even just a short walk around the block can do wonders for how you feel. I used my walks to grieve. Walking gave me the quiet time I needed to listen to music (maybe my loved one’s favorite song) and cry if I wanted to without fear of judgement or criticism. It was nice to be able to “get it all out.” I would walk back into the house feeling “lighter” than when I left. Getting outside also helps us to eat and sleep better. Sitting on the couch or laying in bed won’t contribute to either one. So do your best, as hard as it might be, to spend even a short amount of time outside. Your body, heart, mind and soul will appreciate it!

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