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Emotional Benefits of Reiki

Emotional Benefits of Reiki When Grieving

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Grief affects us emotionally in many different ways. These effects range from feelings of anger, fear and worry to harboring resentment and blame. As a result, your emotional energy centers can become blocked or unbalanced and you feel completely out sorts. It is difficult to begin your grief journey when you are feeling this way. Reiki has the ability to provide you with emotional benefits during grieving. This happens because Reiki unblocks and balances your emotional centers. After receiving Reiki, you feel more calm and relaxed. This helps you to better handle the emotions associated with your grief.


Following are the emotional benefits of Reiki when you are grieving.

Promotes Feelings of Calmness

Grief can send your world into a tailspin. Reiki helps to promote feelings of calmness by balancing your first chakra which helps you to be more grounded. Being grounded fills you with a sense of stability which leads to feeling emotionally calm.

Relieves Stress by Relaxing the Mind

Grief can overwhelm your mind in many ways. This can include the inability to make decisions, feeling confused or experiencing a sense of numbness. Reiki can relax the mind by unblocking your Third and Fifth Chakras to remove any indecisiveness you may be experiencing. It also minimizes confusion by balancing your sixth chakra. Relaxing the mind helps to relieve any grief-related emotional stress you may be experiencing.

Encourages Emotional Release

If not addressed, grief can build up inside of you sometimes to the point you feel like exploding or imploding. Reiki focuses on your sixth chakra to help you release any emotions you may be holding inside. It also helps your fourth Chakra bring your heart back to a place of love. Emotional release is especially healthy when you are grieving. This will allow you to experience healthy feelings of sadness.

Soothes Emotional Distress

Grieving can often make you feel hopeless and in a state of emotional upheaval. Everything can begin to irritate you. Reiki goes to your fourth Chakra to bring back a sense of hope and balances your Second Chakra to help remove any irritability. Having a sense of peace helps you to get through the emotional fallout associated with grief.

Removes Fear and Negativity

Grieving often brings forward feelings of fear. Many times this is because you have lost your sense of trust. By balancing your Seventh Chakra, Reiki reminds you to trust your inner voice. When you listen to your inner voice, you are less likely to be fearful and more likely to believe your future will turn out okay.

Promotes Creativity

Grief can shut you down. Finding ways to express your emotions, rather than hold them in, helps you to heal. Photography, writing, art, acting and singing are all ways to express your grief. Reiki can keep your fifth chakra in balance so you can use your creativity as a healthy part of your grief journey.

Provides Clarity of Thought

Grief often makes you feel confused and/or lose your concentration. As a result, you may be more prone to an accident when you are grieving. Reiki can remove any blockages in your sixth chakra to provide clarity of thought and improve your ability to concentrate.

Boosts Self-Esteem

You can become your own worst enemy when you are grieving. Feelings of guilt and self-criticism play over and over in your head. You being to lose any confidence you had in yourself as person. In this case, Reiki will focus on your third chakra to boost your self-esteem and give you a sense of confidence. Accepting yourself and what you are going through is healthy when you are grieving.


Excerpt from Grief Reiki – An Integrated Approach to the Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Components of Grief and Loss, Chapter 7, Emotional Benefits of Reiki.

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Why Self-Care Helps With Grief

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Self-care is one of the most important aspects of grieving. Unfortunately this is the last thing you may think about doing. If you are like me, you may end up putting your own self-care on hold because grief has made you physically exhausted. In fact, grief is what is draining your energy. Being physically drained puts you at risk of getting sick or being in an accident. When you are physically healthy, you are better able to deal with the emotions associated with grief. This is why it is important to practice self-care as much as possible so you stay healthy.

Daily Practices

Take caring of yourself isn’t something you do just once in a while. Self-care practices have to occur on a daily basis. The more resilient you are when you are grieving the more you are able to handle its unpredictable ups and downs. The next sections describe some simple daily practices you can do even when you are grieving. These include exercise, healthy eating and the improving sleeping habits .


I am grieving and you want me to exercise? Are you crazy? This is probably the last thing you feel like doing. For some of you, exercising is already part of your daily routine. In fact, some of you may even gravitate to over-exercising to avoid dealing with your feelings. Others of you who usually exercise may stop altogether. Neither approach is good. Somehow you have to find a happy medium to keep some form of exercise in your life. This could mean walking around the block once a day. It could mean taking something less aerobic like a yoga class. Paul Denniston created Grief Yoga[1] which combines many forms of yoga to help release grief. I took one of these classes and found it to be a wonderful way to both exercise and work through my grief.

Bottom line, any form exercise is truly vital for your physical and emotional health. If you incorporate all four forms of exercise into a program you can do consistently, that’s even better. If you can at least attempt to tackle balance and stretching exercises when you are grieving, you can find ways to help your body and your mind begin to heal. Remember, if you are unsure about a particular exercise it’s always good to first talk with your doctor.

Healthy Eating

One of the common responses to grief  is related to changes in your appetite. In some cases, you may feel like eating everything in sight. For example, you may not normally eat sweets but after a loss find yourself heading for a big piece of chocolate cake. In other cases, you may not want to eat at all. For example, the very sight of food makes you feel nauseous. Changes in appetite are very common when you are grieving.

So how can you grieve and still find healthy ways to eat? The best approach is low-fat, high-fiber, carbohydrate-rich meals with plenty of fruits and vegetables. They can soothe you without draining your energy and give you the nutrients you need to boost your immune system. It is important to stay away from fatty foods, refined sugar and caffeinated products. These foods intensify the responses to grief like the inability to sleep or concentrate

Improving Sleeping Habits

Sleep can be a huge issue when you are grieving. For me it was insomnia or lack of sleep; you on the other hand may just want to put the covers over your head and sleep forever. Obviously either way is not good. When Joy died I was afraid to close my eyes so I wouldn’t imagine how she died. As a result, I found I wasn’t sleeping much at all in those first few weeks. Once I started sending Reiki to myself before I went to bed, I found I could at least get a few hours of sleep. Not sure why I didn’t start self-Reiki right after Joy’s death instead of waiting. Must have been the effects of dealing with the shock of her death. Everything went out the window when grief came calling. If you can’t sleep when you are grieving, one of the other things you can do for yourself is to rest. I know that sounds easier said than done. If you are like me, you can’t even sleep or think about sleeping. But resting doesn’t have to be done for long periods of time. Sometimes just taking a 5 to 10-minute cat nap can leave you feeling refreshed. If you can’t take a cat nap, just closing your eyes for a few minutes can help you to feel better.

As Mandy Hale says “It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”

[1] griefyoga.com


Excerpt from Grief Reiki – An Integrated Approach to the Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Components of Grief and Loss, Chapter 9, Self-Care.

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Walking The Labyrinth

Labyrinth Walking When Grieving

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I had never heard about labyrinth walking until a few years ago when I saw a “Walking The Labyrinth” course listed at a local retreat center. Being mostly curious I signed up. What I learned about was something I never knew existed. Walking a labyrinth as another form of meditation.


A labyrinth is better known as a maze. They go back as far as Greek mythology. Over time they became very popular. During medieval times, they were made of intricate stone designs on the floors of Gothic Cathedrals. Some of the most famous labyrinths are found Chartres, Reims and Amiens in northern France. It is said pilgrims would follow the path of the labyrinth to simulate a pilgrimage to the Holy Land. During their walk they would meditate and pray. This walk replaced an actual visit to the Holy Land which they usually could not afford. Walking the labyrinth as a spiritual practice eventually faded away.

By the time of Renaissance, labyrinths had evolved into elaborate garden mazes; more for pleasure than for spiritual growth. Labyrinth walking as a form of meditation disappeared for over 250 years. In the 1990s, Lauren Artress reintroduced the practice to the United States after walking the labyrinth at Chartres Cathedral.[1] Now there are over 5000 labyrinths in eighty different countries. In fact many of them can be found here in the United States.[2] You may be surprised to find one not very far from you. If you do, take the time to plan a visit.


So you may be wondering why I’ve even brought this up. It’s important for a griever to find activities that are peaceful and calming. Walking a labyrinth does exactly that. It gives you time to meditate, pray, or zone out completely. There is no right or wrong way to do it.

You can ask a question before entering the labyrinth (anticipating an answer before you leave it) or you can just walk to decompress and relax. Labyrinths can be found inside or outside. Those that are outside are usually in gardens. What better setting to relax than outside in a beautiful garden? In doing my first labyrinth walk I was surprised how refreshed and peaceful I felt.

As St. Augustine once said, “It is solved by the walking.” He wasn’t kidding.

[1] veriditas.org/aboutlabyrinth

[2] labyrinthlocator.com


Excerpt from Grief Reiki – An Integrated Approach to the Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Components of Grief and Loss, Chapter 14, Spiritual Tools.

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