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Forgiveness (The Other “F” Word)

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Forgiveness, the other “F” word, is one of the recovery components from unresolved grief. We know we have to do it but it’s so darn hard. We find all the reasons we can to NOT forgive. We convince ourselves that forgiveness is “crazy talk”. But….he did this. But….she said that. It would be WRONG to forgive. We place ourselves in our own unforgiving universe just because we don’t want to deal with it or worse yet, we don’t want to let go of “being right”. We think it is easier to stay angry or hold a grudge.  But is it really?

Think of what it does to your body walking around in perpetual state of anger or resentment all the time. It’s like always being in a fight or flight mode. Our bodies weren’t meant to operate that way. Staying on guard against a threat eventually wears down the body’s natural defenses. After awhile, we end up with physical symptoms ranging anywhere from headaches to heart attacks. Why would anyone chose to do this to themselves?

What we tend to forget is that forgiveness is about us not the other person. You are not focusing on “being right” no matter what. You are not condoning someone’s behavior. You are trying to better understand what they may have been through. You are trying to “let go” so your own heart, soul, mind and body can be free.

FORGIVING YOURSELF

Before even attempting to forgive anyone else, we should make sure that we are at peace with ourselves. This is often harder to do than forgiving someone else. Why is that? First of all we are our own worst critics. We place high expectations on ourselves and if we don’t meet them we are the first ones to send ourself a barrage of criticism. That voice inside our head starts to nag us for being less than perfect. But we aren’t perfect. We were never meant to be perfect. We have to stop being so hard on ourselves. We have to accept that we are human and will continue to make mistakes. We have to accept in our hearts this is okay. Carrying around resentment and anger against ourselves just hurts us and no one else.

FORGIVING OTHERS

The Grief Recovery Method® shows us what to do to forgive:

Take Action – Forgiveness is an action not a feeling. Once you taken the action to forgive, your feelings will follow. For many, the very act of forgiving feels like a huge weight being lifted off their shoulders. For others, it brings the walls down they have built around their heart.

Don’t forgive someone in person – Since you are forgiving to heal yourself, the person being forgiven need never know it has happened. If you try to forgive someone in person, especially if they don’t think they did or said anything wrong, they may perceive it as a personal attack. It could provoke a new issue that could create even more incompleteness in your own life. As a result, it is suggested you never forgive someone in person.

Don’t ask for forgiveness – Asking for forgiveness is really making an apology. If you feel the need to say something directly to another person, make it in the form of an apology. Although you may have been hurt by the other person, that does not eliminate the need to make an apology for what you may or may not have done to them. Apologizing helps you to be complete.

WHAT TO SAY

“I forgive you so I can be free.” – Forgiveness is about you not the other person. This statement helps to remind you that forgiving is helping to set you free from the emotional baggage caused by anger and resentment.

“I forgive you so I don’t keep holding onto anger.” – Do you really want to carry that resentment and anger around with you forever? This statement is another way of saying I am taking care of me and this is what is important.

“I acknowledge the things you did/didn’t do that hurt hurt me and I am not going to let the memories of those incidents hurt me anymore.”  Sometimes a person creates a situation in your life that is almost impossible to forgive. This may be  especially true when rape, abuse or domestic violence are involved. Instead of forgiving the person, you can forgive to let go of the memories or incidents so they no longer cause you pain. This is another way of setting yourself free so you can move forward.

FORGIVENESS MEDITATION

I know for some people just thinking about forgiveness may not be enough. In those instances, writing your thoughts down in a journal or having some sort of “ceremony”  might be more beneficial for you. Here is a short forgiveness mediation you can try using any type of candle you have around the house:

In a quiet place, light a candle.

Take a few deep breaths and relax.

Think of the person you want to forgive standing on the other side of the candle.

Look into the flame of the candle. The flame represents truth, love and kindness. Visualize the negative energy you are holding onto going into the candle’s flame. When it reaches the flame it turns into beautiful white light.

Mentally move this white light into the other person.

Now say, “I forgive you.” (Say this as many times as feels right).

After forgiving the other person wrap yourself in the white light to wash away any leftover traces of resentment or anger.

Thank yourself for having the courage to forgive.

Take a few deep breaths and relax.

You can also use this meditation for self-forgiveness. Just visualize yourself, instead of someone else, standing on the other side of the candle.

Marianne Williamson writes: “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” Here is a video of Marianne talking about forgiveness on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!

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Does Reiki Help With Grief?

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I’ve been asked a number of times how can Reiki help with grief.  That’s a great question. I had been studying and receiving Reiki long before the deaths of my loved ones. So when they died, one of the first things I did each time was to call my Reiki Teacher and Mentor for a session. Anyone who knows me have heard me say that Reiki helped me get through the grief associated with both of their deaths. Here is my take on why.

WHAT IS REIKI?

As a quick refresher, Reiki is is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. Reiki is given by the “laying of hands” that has been practiced for thousands of years. In fact, the basis for modern-day Reiki may have started in Tibet more than 2,500 years ago. The word Reiki comes from two Japanese words – Rei and Ki.  The word “Rei” means higher knowledge or spiritual consciousness.  The word “Ki” means life energy.  This is the same meaning as in Chi (Chinese), Prana (Sanskrit) and Ti/Ki (Hawaiian). Life energy plays an important role in everything we do. Reiki harnesses that life energy to promote healing, relaxation and a sense of calm.

RESPONSES TO GRIEF

In researching Reiki back in 2007, everything I read said Reiki focused on “health and spiritual well-being” and promoted “stress reduction and relaxation”. Maintaining “health and spiritual well-being” when you are grieving can be a top priority. Once grief hits everything seems to go out of whack. Our minds can’t compute fast enough anymore. We feel like we are in a fog. Our bodies also go through a difficult time. Sometimes we feel completely disassociated from them. Just like our hearts, they too may begin to feel broken and battered. I am sure if you have ever grieved, you may have experienced symptoms like:

Insomnia

Headaches

Loss of appetite

Difficulty falling asleep

Weakness

Fatigue

Feelings of heaviness

Rollercoaster of emotions

Aches, pains, and other stress-related ailments.

Since the above list shows that grief affects us physically, it’s important to understand what is happening and why. A body needs energy to be healthy. Energy from food, energy from exercise and energy from being outside in nature. Grief however is an energy-depleting emotion. If you aren’t replacing and/or balancing the energy your body loses when grieving, you begin to feel awful. It you don’t do anything to replenish the energy being removed from your body, over time you feel worse and worse. For example, after the death of my former finance, my heart physically ached inside my body. It felt like it was going to explode out of my chest. It felt like I was having a heart attack. Maybe in some way – figuratively not literally – I was. My stomach felt like I had swallowed a block of concrete. I had zip, nada, no energy. A person’s body, mind and soul can only take this for so long before any number of unhealthy things start to happen. It’s not unusual to get sick when you are grieving. It’s not unusual to have some sort of accident when you are grieving. These two outcomes can almost have worse consequences than if we just emotionally felt our grief from the beginning.

BENEFITS OF REIKI

As humans, we are made up of energy.  When the energy paths of the body are blocked or disturbed, the result can be illness, weakness, and pain. Reiki balances and strengthens the flow of energy within the body, which may decrease pain, ease muscle tension, improve sleep, and generally enhance the body’s ability to heal itself. Energy flows through a Reiki practitioner’s hands to the recipient. Reiki activates or enhances a person’s natural healing processes. Reiki provides us with physical, mental, emotional and spiritual benefits by balancing our energy. Some of the benefits of Reiki include:

Promotes relaxation

Improves sleep

Reduces stress and tension

Helps with pain management

Reduces anxiety

Soothes digestion

Improves circulation

Enhances healing

It’s not a coincidence that the symptoms associated with grieving and the benefits of Reiki almost match each other one-for-one. Reiki energy knows right where to go to balance and heal. The more I started receiving Reiki (and eventually once I learned how to practice Reiki on myself) the more I realized that I was actually taking better care of my body. As soon as I started Reiki after my loved ones died, my heart stopped feeling like it was going to explode. The brick in my stomach eventually went away. Being physically balanced and more relaxed helped me to find a sense of calm even though I was grieving. It helped me to think more clearly. It helped to sleep better so I wasn’t walking around the house and work like a zombie. Reiki didn’t magically take the sadness associated with my grief away,  but it did make it physically easier for me to deal with grief’s ups and downs. Having a sense of calm and balance gave me the courage and stamina I needed to tackle my journey through grief.

So consider trying Reiki. Don’t wait until you are grieving to receive its benefits. If you haven’t tried it and are grieving, find a Reiki Practitioner in your area. Reiki will help you to stay well both physically and spiritually which is something we especially need after suffering any loss.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Grief Reiki Healing Program

Grief Reiki® Healing Program

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Every year millions face the effects of dealing with loss and grief. This can be the result of death, divorce, moving, retirement or other life events. Since society hasn’t provided effective ways for handling grief, many grievers feel lost and alone.

Our first-of-its-kind Grief Reiki® Healing Program uses Reiki and other spiritually-based tools to help others heal who are grieving. In this educational program, students learn how to emotionally, physically, and spiritually guide a griever who is navigating their grief journey. Grief Reiki® Energy Healers are trained to better understand what a griever experiences, so they can provide support through the ups and downs associated with loss.

PREREQUISITES

This healing program is open to all new and experienced Reiki Practitioners and Reiki Masters. Students should have a desire to work with those grieving any type of loss.

WHY ENROLL IN THIS PROGRAM

This healing program is designed to teach Reiki Practitioners how to help a griever move through the emotional, physical and spiritual effects of grief. Having a sense of calm and balance will provide a griever with the courage and stamina they need to tackle their journey.

This healing program is comprehensive and detailed. With over 3 hours of video lectures, as well as accompanying handouts and activities, students receive the tools to help others who are going through one of the most difficult times in their life.

PROGRAM BENEFITS

As a Grief Reiki® Energy Healer, you will have the benefit of a comprehensive and multi-disciplinary learning experience. You will gain meaningful new insights to impact your personal and professional life while elevating your Reiki expertise. Upon completion of the program, you will be equipped to guide others through a positive transformation that will leave a life-long impact.

NOTE: Becoming a Grief Reiki® Energy Healer identifies that you’ve taken our healing program and have demonstrated the skills necessary to help grievers using Reiki and other spiritually-based tools. Our program does not authorize you to use the terms “Therapist”, “Psychologist”, or “Counselor.”

WHAT TO EXPECT AS A STUDENT

– Unique focus on the benefits of Reiki and other spiritual tools to help grievers

– Improved helping skills including active and empathetic listening

– A transformative learning experience that provides positive results

– An integrated program where you receive substantive guidance and support

– Access to tools, handouts and activities to augment your Reiki practice

WHAT YOUR CLIENTS WILL GAIN

– A clearer path to understanding their grief so they can move through it

– Enhanced capability for self-care during a difficult time in their life

– Ability to integrate the emotional, physical and spiritual grief components

– Stronger belief they can move from surviving their loss to living again

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is meant by “Grief Reiki® Energy Healer”?

Individuals who become Grief Reiki® Energy Healers are trained in a specific approach and methodology to help clients move through their grief using Reiki and other spiritually-based tools.

When can I begin helping others?

You can begin helping others as soon as you have successfully completed the program.

Does the program address all kinds of losses or just the death of a loved one?

Grief is the normal response to over 40 different life events. You will be given techniques to support any type of grieving event.

What technology do I need in order to be able to participate in this online course?

You will require a computer with an internet connection.

Do you have a money-back policy?

Although we are super proud of this program, we realize that there are often circumstance where students change their minds. For that reason, we provide a 30-day money back guarantee. After 30 days, the program becomes non-refundable.

HOW DO I LEARN MORE?

CLICK HERE to learn more about becoming a Grief Reiki® Energy Healer on UDEMY.

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