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Pet Loss eBook (Download)

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Losing your pet is painful.

Grief is normal and natural, but society has taught you that it is not acceptable to feel sad. Most people consider their pet a part of the family, so losing your pet can be traumatic.

Because we live in a “feel good” society, we are raised with misinformation about how to recover from pet loss.

If you’ve tried to feel better, but still feel heartbroken and alone, there is nothing wrong with you. It’s simply a matter of using the wrong tools.

This eBook gives you the right tools to start on the path to recovery from the devastating loss of your pet.

Download the book instantly which includes information on:

What is grief?

Why am I having such a hard time?

Common responses to losing your pet.

How to know if you are grieving the loss of your pet.

Grieving the loss of your pet is normal.

There are no stages of grief.

You are not alone.

Misinformation you were taught about grief.

Moving pet loss from the head to the heart.

Unhelpful comments people say.

Helpful ways to express your grief.

Will I ever feel better?

When can I get a new pet?





Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Grief Educational Courses

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Grief Reiki® LLC offers the following The Grief Recovery Method® educational courses to help participants deal with a loss of any kind. While death and divorce may seem to be the most obvious losses, courses are not limited to those losses. There are more than 43 life events that can produce feelings of grief.


What is The Grief Recovery Method?

The Grief Recovery Method® provides a safe environment for you to look at their old beliefs about dealing with loss, and provide actions that will lead you to complete unresolved emotions that may still be causing you pain. As a trained and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, we will facilitate your journey with compassion and confidentiality.

  • Founded almost 30 years ago by John James and Russell Friedman
  • Developed by The Grief Institute®, which provides training coast-to-coast, border-to-border in the United States and Canada with affiliates in Australia, Mexico, Sweden, and the United Kingdom
  • Action program moving beyond death, divorce and other losses
  • Helps participants complete their relationship to the pain, isolation, and loneliness caused by significant emotional loss


What Makes Us Different

  • We focus on recovery from unresolved grief
  • We are an educational program not counseling or therapy
  • We address the emotional not intellectual side of grief
  • We provide a structured action plan
  • We require commitment to recovery
  • We are not a “Drop In” support group


Who is it for?

Anyone who suffers from grief no matter what the cause.

  • Grief is one of the most taboo subjects in America
  • Most people aren’t sure what they should do or how they should feel after the death of a loved one
  • There are too many urban legends about grief and its stages which can cause confusion
  • There are over 43 losses that contribute to the range of emotions called grief
  • We are taught to deal with grief intellectually, not emotionally

If you:

  • Have experienced any emotional losses
  • Have a broken heart
  • And want to feel better

This educational program is for you.


Grief Educational Courses

We offer the following Grief Recovery Method® educational courses:

  • Individual Sessions (1 hour for 7 Weeks)
  • Group Sessions (2 hours for 8 Weeks)
  • Helping Children Grieve (2 hours for 6 Weeks)
  • Dealing with Pet Loss (2 hours for 6 Weeks)

We feel it is important to make our Grief Recovery educational courses available to everyone and according to each person’s personal and financial circumstances. All we request is a $25 deposit to register and cover the costs of course materials. We suggest a voluntary donation (amount at your discretion) for each class. A portion of all donations received goes to charity. Here’s how you help charity when you donate:

Charities supported: 

Wounded WarriorsDidi Hirsch Suicide Prevention and Rita’s Rainbows.


Individual and Group Sessions

  • Outcome: Assists recovery from loss by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Our job is to explain those action choices and guide the participants in taking them.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Loss History Graph; Relationship Graph; and Completion Letter.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments.
  • Course Material (included)grief_recover_handbook1

When Children Grieve

  • Outcome: Assists parents/guardians by providing them with directions and guidelines to help their child’s recovery from loss.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief;Concepts of Recovery;How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Emotional Energy Checklist; Moving, Divorce and Other Losses; The “D” Word”; Learning to Avoid Incorrect Language; and Taking Children to Funerals.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments
  • Course Material (included):


Dealing with Pet Loss

  • Outcome: Helps grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, how to have fond memories of their beloved pet not turn painful.
  • Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Pet Loss History Graph; Pet Relationship Graph; and Pet Completion Letter.
  • Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments
  • Course Material (included):

Pet Loss


How to Register/Schedule

Go to: Grief Reiki Online Scheduling Tool

Pick an course option and complete one of our online Client Forms.

$25 deposit required to register for any Grief Recovery course.

We accept payments through PayPal.

For other payment options, please call our office at (800) 458-7348.

All classes/sessions are held in our facility located at:

“The Edge”, 877 N. Douglas St., El Segundo, CA 90245.


There is plenty of free parking.


Once you register/schedule, you will receive a confirmation email with more details.

We look forward to having you join us!

Grief Reiki® LLC


For More Information

Watch this video about the Grief Recovery Method Educational/Outreach Program.

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Losing A Beloved Pet

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Words can’t describe how it feels to lose a pet. For many, a furry friend is a beloved member of their family. For others, their pet is the only family they have. Often when a pet passes away, people resort to incorrect mechanisms to deal with the grief. Sometimes they even attempt to replace the pet immediately. Unfortunately, there is little effective guidance for grieving pet owners. As a result, many pet grievers either isolate themselves or pretend like “everything is fine” for fear of being judged or criticized – especially by non-pet owners.

Another problem is that friends and family don’t know what to say to someone who lost their pet. Oftentimes they resort to statements that are not helpful at all to the griever like:

“It was only a dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc).”

“Don’t feel bad you can always get another dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc).”

“Just give it time and you won’t remember your dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc) anymore.”

In fact these statements are not useful at all. They are almost cruel. They actually break a grieving pet owner’s heart into a million more pieces. This is why many grieving pet owners often choose not to share their pain with anyone. Non-pet owners just wouldn’t understand the special bond they shared with their pet. They wouldn’t understand the feeling of unconditional love they received on a daily basis. It’s just too hard to explain so pet grievers find it easier to just bottle it up inside.

My first real experience with the death of a pet was when I was about 11 years old.  We were living in England and had “adopted” a local cat and her kittens who were wandering around our neighborhood. One of the kittens was completely black. I fell in love with him. I called him Blackie. Blackie went everywhere with me. He had a collar and a leash and we would walk around the neighborhood, go to the park, and ride together in the car. We were inseparable. Then one day my parents told me that Blackie was sick and wasn’t going to get better. Not get better? How was that possible? He was just a kitten and hadn’t even gone through one of his nine lives yet. This couldn’t be happening. I had no idea he was sick. I was completely devastated.

After my parents told me Blackie was going to die, I remember sitting with him in the living room. I just held him while the saddest song from the Disney movie “Chitty Chitty Bang Bang” played on the record player. I played that song over and over again. I just held Blackie  while listening to the sad music. I cried and cried. I didn’t understand how he got sick or why he was sick (my parents told me he had feline leukemia). The next day he was gone. I just knew my heart was broken.

Here is the song “Hushabye Mountain” I played to Blackie over and over again (Note: This is more proof that time doesn’t heal grief because I cried just like I was 11 years old again while posting this video):

The heartbreak and pain stuck with me for a long time. Having other cats around didn’t make it easier. In fact it didn’t help. It just made me miss him even more. The others cats weren’t my Blackie. Blackie was my cat. Blackie was my best friend. I could talk to him about everything. My school. My sister. My parents. My friends. He listened and just cuddled up to me as if to say it would all be okay. I felt so alone.

Now that I think about it, I am glad I allowed myself to openly grieve for Blackie. From what I can remember, my family was supportive. They didn’t make me feel like I was doing something wrong or that I needed to get over it. They let me play Hushabye Mountain over and over again. I am very thankful for this because their support helped set the stage for how I would face loss and grief over the years.

Here are some things we need to keep in mind when losing a pet:

  • In any household in which a pet has died, it is important to remember that each family member will have a different reaction to the loss. Each relationship to the pet was unique, so each person’s grief will be unique to them. This needs to be respected and honored. Never compare your reaction to that of another family member.
  • Talk openly and honestly about the loss. Trying to hide your feelings will only make it confusing – especially if you have children.
  • Don’t turn to short-term energy relieving behaviors (STERBs) – anger, alcohol, drugs, shopping, etc.- to deal with the loss. These only make you feel better for a little while and don’t help you to “complete” the relationship you had with your pet – i.e. face your grief.
  • Remember that although your pet is no longer here physically, we continue to have an emotional and spiritual relationship with them.  These aspects of the relationship need to be “complete” so memories of your pet don’t turn painful.
  • Being in pain over the death of your pet is not an expression of love. Completing what was left unfinished (especially if your pet died tragically – hit by a car, etc.), will get you out of the pain. You will still have sad and happy memories, but those memories will no longer turn painful.
  • Never use the word “guilt” or say that you “feel guilty.” Guilt implies intent to harm, and most pet owners would never do anything maliciously to harm their pet. A better descriptor would be “unresolved grief” – things you wish you had or hadn’t done with your pet. Unresolved grief is very different from guilt.
  • Think of those things you wish you could apologize for (“I am sorry I yelled at you when I got home from a bad day at work”), forgive (“I forgive you for ripping up my favorite pair of shoes”) or wished you had said to your pet (“I loved how you used to greet me when I came home. It was the best feeling in the world”).

If you are having a difficult time, you are not alone. The Grief Recovery Method®, through their Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss, offers a structured action plan to help grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, have fond memories of your beloved pet not turn painful.

Click for the Grief Recovery Webinar: Dealing with the Death of Our Cherished Animal Companions

The webinar will:

  • Help you become aware of any grief-related myths that may be keeping you stuck in your grief.
  • Guide you to look at the pet losses that have affected your life, and see if they are still limiting you.
  • Encourage you to take actions to complete what is left emotionally unfinished for you.

Bottom line, grieve for your furry friend. Be sad. Remember the time you spent with them. Hold them in your heart forever.


Sending you love, comfort and peace!



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