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Pet Loss

Why Pet Loss Is So Hard

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Words can’t describe how it feels to lose a pet. For many, a furry friend is a beloved member of their family. For others, their pet is the only family they have. These are a few reasons why pet loss can be so hard.

Often when a pet passes away, people resort to incorrect mechanisms to deal with the grief. Sometimes they even attempt to replace the pet immediately. Unfortunately, there is little effective guidance for grieving pet owners. As a result, many pet grievers either isolate themselves or pretend like “everything is fine” for fear of being judged or criticized – especially by non-pet owners.

HOW OTHERS REACT

Another problem is that friends and family don’t know what to say to someone who lost their pet. Oftentimes they resort to statements that are not helpful at all to the griever like:

“It was only a dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc).”

“Don’t feel bad you can always get another dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc).”

“Just give it time and you won’t remember your dog (cat, fish, lizard, etc) anymore.”

In fact these statements are not useful at all. They are almost cruel. They actually break a grieving pet owner’s heart into a million more pieces. This is why many grieving pet owners often choose not to share their pain with anyone. Non-pet owners just wouldn’t understand the special bond they shared with their pet. They wouldn’t understand the feeling of unconditional love they received on a daily basis. It’s just too hard to explain so pet grievers find it easier to just bottle it up inside.

THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND

Here are some things we need to keep in mind when losing a pet:

– In any household in which a pet has died, it is important to remember that each family member will have a different reaction to the loss. Each relationship to the pet was unique, so each person’s grief will be unique to them. This needs to be respected and honored. Never compare your reaction to that of another family member.

– Talk openly and honestly about the loss. Trying to hide your feelings will only make it confusing – especially if you have children.

– Don’t turn to short-term energy relieving behaviors (STERBs) – anger, alcohol, drugs, shopping, etc.- to deal with the loss. These only make you feel better for a little while and don’t help you to “complete” the relationship you had with your pet – i.e. face your grief.

– Remember that although your pet is no longer here physically, we continue to have an emotional and spiritual relationship with them.  These aspects of the relationship need to be “complete” so memories of your pet don’t turn painful.

– Being in pain over the death of your pet is not an expression of love. Completing what was left unfinished (especially if your pet died tragically – hit by a car, etc.), will get you out of the pain. You will still have sad and happy memories, but those memories will no longer turn painful.

– Never use the word “guilt” or say that you “feel guilty.” Guilt implies intent to harm, and most pet owners would never do anything maliciously to harm their pet. A better descriptor would be “unresolved grief” – things you wish you had or hadn’t done with your pet. Unresolved grief is very different from guilt.

– Think of those things you wish you could apologize for (“I am sorry I yelled at you when I got home from a bad day at work”), forgive (“I forgive you for ripping up my favorite pair of shoes”) or wished you had said to your pet (“I loved how you used to greet me when I came home. It was the best feeling in the world”).

If you are having a difficult time, you are not alone. The Grief Recovery Method®, through their Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss, offers a structured action plan to help grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, have fond memories of your beloved pet not turn painful.

DEALING WITH PET LOSS WEBINAR

The FREE WEBINAR from The Grief Reiki® Academy will:

– Discover how society treats grieving pet owners.

– Better understand why it is so hard to lose a pet.

– Learn what to say and do (and what not to say and do) for a grieving pet owner.

Bottom line, grieve for your furry friend. Be sad.

Remember the time you spent with them. Hold them in your heart forever.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Dealing With Pet Loss Anytime Webinar

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The Grief Reiki® Academy is proud to offer our newest Anytime Webinar, Dealing with Pet Loss. It joins the recently released webinars, Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds, Beyond the Casserole and Helping Children Grieve. Watch from the comfort of your home anytime it is convenient for you. And the best part is that for a limited time all the webinars are FREE.  You will also receive access to eBooks with each webinar.

DEALING WITH PET LOSS

Learn how to help yourself or someone who is grieving the loss of a pet. Understand why it is so hard when you lose a pet. Know what to do and what not to do for a grieving pet owner. Discover the actions you can take to move beyond the pain of pet loss. Length: 30 Minutes

You will also receive access to the free eBook:

1) Guide to Pet Loss

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OTHER WEBINARS IN THE GRIEF RECOVERY SERIES

Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds – Find out what you can do to release the emotional pain caused by the more than 40 different life experiences that can cause grief, including death, divorce, and moving. Length: 50 Minutes

Beyond The Casserole – Begin to understand loss from the griever’s point of view, and how you, as family, friend, coworker or concerned community member can help.  Length: 35 Minutes

Helping Children Grieve – Explore how to help a child you know who may be grieving. Length: 35 Minutes

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Grief Recovery Support Groups

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Grief Reiki® LLC offers the following The Grief Recovery Method® Support Groups to help participants deal with a loss of any kind. While death and divorce may seem to be the most obvious losses, courses are not limited to those losses. There are more than 43 life events that can produce feelings of grief.

What Makes Us Different

We focus on recovery from unresolved grief.

We are an educational program not counseling or therapy.

We address the emotional not intellectual side of grief.

We provide a structured action plan.

We require commitment to recovery.

We are not a “Drop In” support group.

What We Offer

The Grief Recovery Method® provides a safe environment for you to look at your old beliefs about dealing with loss, and provide actions that will lead you to complete unresolved emotions that may still be causing you pain. As a trained and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, we will facilitate your journey with compassion and confidentiality.

Individual and Group Sessions

Outcome: Assists recovery from loss by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Our job is to explain those action choices and guide the participants in taking them.

Length:  Individual Sessions (1 hour for 7 weeks) or Group Sessions (2 hours for 8 weeks)

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Loss History Graph; Relationship Graph; and Completion Letter.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments.

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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Dealing with Pet Loss

Outcome: Helps grieving pet owners discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished and ultimately, how to have fond memories of their beloved pet not turn painful.

Length – 2 hours for 6 weeks

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief; Concepts of Recovery; How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Pet Loss History Graph; Pet Relationship Graph; and Pet Completion Letter.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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When Children Grieve

Outcome: Assists parents/guardians by providing them with directions and guidelines to help their child’s recovery from loss.

Length: 2 hours for 6 weeks

Course agenda includes: The Grief Recovery Method Principles; Misconceptions about Grief;Concepts of Recovery;How Incomplete Loss Occurs; Identifying Incomplete Losses; Emotional Energy Checklist; Moving, Divorce and Other Losses; The “D” Word”; Learning to Avoid Incorrect Language; and Taking Children to Funerals.

Homework: There will be weekly homework assignments

Course Material: Included as part of investment.

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How to Register/Schedule

Go to: Grief Reiki Online Scheduling Tool

Pick an course option and complete one of our online Client Forms.

We accept payments through PayPal.

For other payment options, please call our office at (800) 458-7348.

All classes/sessions are held in our facility located at:

“The Edge”, 877 N. Douglas St., El Segundo, CA 90245

There is plenty of free parking.

Once you register/schedule, you will receive a confirmation email with more details.

We look forward to having you join us!

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!

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