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Myths About Grief

Myths About Grief eBook (Download)

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Have You Heard These Myths About Grief?

Most of us over the course of our lifetime have heard at least one or more of the following MYTHS after the loss of a loved one:

– Time Heals All Wounds

– Grieve Alone

– Be Strong

– Don’t Feel Bad

– Replace The Loss

– Keep Busy

Society has perpetuated the use of these terms so much so that they have become part of our vernacular.

If you think about it though, are these statements really helpful when you are grieving?

In reality, these myths can keep you stuck in the pain and sorrow following a significant emotional loss.

Download the book instantly which includes information on:

– How society minimizes our grief and how to avoid receiving these messages from others.

– The illusion that we can replace the loss with certain types of grief events and how to avoid this trap.

– How we learn to isolate with our grief and how that can hurt us.

– Why “being strong” is not beneficial to you or those around you following a loss.

– How keeping busy puts us further away from the goal of moving on.

– How time alone cannot and will not heal your broken heart.

eBook Table of Contents

– Introduction: Six Major Myths about Grief

– Myth 1: Don’t Feel Bad!

– Myth 2: Replace the Loss

– Myth 3: Grieve Alone

– Myth 4: Time Heals All Wounds

– Myth 5: Be Strong for Others

– Myth 6: Keep Busy

– Find a Grief Recovery Specialist in your area

– References

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Loss of a Loved One

Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

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Released in December 2015, Grief Reiki® is a proud contributor to Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One

Part of the Grief Diaries series dedicated to offering comfort, company and hope in the aftermath of life’s challenges and losses, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is a collection of intimate and candid narrations from different writers about losses from different angles including step-parents, uncles, best friends, cousins, grandchildren, and more. In chapter one, each writer bravely penned the moment when their familiar lives disappeared along with their loved one’s last breath. The writers were then presented with intimate questions pertaining to their loss, and their responses are compiled within the individual chapters. These narrations are unabridged, as every voice is unique. But no matter the differences, the stories contained in each Grief Diaries book is a treasured reminder that none of us walk the journey alone. Welcome to the Grief Diaries village, where grief transcends all differences and unites us in the aftermath. Welcome, bereaved friend, to company, comfort and hope.

Losing someone we love is a heartbreak unlike any other experience. Because love comes in many forms, Grief Diaries: Loss of a Loved One is dedicated to sharing the stories of losing cousins, uncles, nieces, grandchildren, best friends, partners, and more. When we swap stories, it helps us to feel less alone. This book is like your own portable support group, open 24/7. It offers an intimate collection of stories by people around the world who have all walked in your shoes. Consider this book one of your bereavement tools, and pull it out whenever you need. For no matter the age, the circumstance, or number of days since your parent passed, the stories contained within this book offer company, comfort and hope, and are a treasured reminder that none of us walk this journey alone.

Reviews

“CRITICALLY IMPORTANT . . . I want to say  what you are doing is so critically important.” -DR. BERNICE A. KING, Daughter of Dr. Martin Luther King

“STUNNING . . . Grief Diaries treats the reader to a rare combination of candor and fragility through the eyes of the bereaved. Delving into the deepest recesses of the heartbroken, the reader easily identifies with the diverse collection of stories and richly colored threads of profound love that create a stunning read full of comfort and hope.” -DR. GLORIA HORSLEY, Founder & President of Open to Hope Foundation

“A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WHO HAS LOST A LOVED ONE…Grief is such a difficult topic yet the writers in this book are so unbelievably brave to tell their individual stories. Each chapter gives the reader insight into what they were thinking and feeling during such a difficult and painful time in their lives. The stories are inspirational, heartfelt and hopeful. Every person who has grieved the loss of a loved one but feels alone needs to read these stories so they don’t feel so isolated. This is a must read for anyone who has lost anyone they have loved. Thank you Grief Diaries for bringing this difficult topic as well the others in this important anthology into our homes and hearts..” AMAZON REVIEWER

Loss of a Loved One on Amazon

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My Personal Loss Story

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 In 2015, The Grief Recovery Method® Blog featured my own Personal Loss Story.

https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/blog/2015/05/personal-loss-stories-sharon-ehlers

[Over the last 35 years, The Grief Recovery Method® has been honored to work with some incredibly brave people. Every day we receive phone calls from people with unimaginable stories and enormous courage. We will be featuring some of these stories in our new weekly blog series. This is Sharon Ehlers’ story.]

April 2015 marks the three-year anniversary of my former fiancé’s death. Since time does not heal when it comes to grief, it is not surprising that the “Anniversary” of his death is just as painful as the day he died. Although we were no longer together when he passed away, I can honestly say that he was my one true love. The pain of his death has been soul wrenching and gut stomping. Time couldn’t possibly ever heal that wound. Why would I want it to?

The first day, the first week, the first month, the first year after his death was tough. Who am I kidding – every day, every week, every month and every year has been tough. But the 4th of every month became a recurring, in-your-face reminder that he was gone. So I decided that I had two choices about how I was going to handle it – bottle it all up inside and walk around pretending I was ok or face it head-on and let the emotions flow.

So on the 4th (and most other days), I spent the time crying until there were no tears. I shouted at the sky. I took long walks. I went through old pictures. I read old cards and love letters. I listened to “our” songs. I remembered the good and the bad. I called his Mom and we cried together. I had a Memorial Service for him with my children up on a hill overlooking the ocean and we released a balloon to the heavens. We cried and held each other. I JUST LET IT ALL OUT. Then I let it out some more until I felt empty. The emptiness didn’t lessen the sadness or the pain but it felt better than holding it inside.

I think I also forced myself to do this because those around me didn’t know what to do.  Most people avoided me. Others wouldn’t bring it up at all. After all he committed suicide and who wants to talk about “that” subject. If talking about grief is the #1 taboo subject in America, who wants to talk about grief related to someone’s suicide? This is probably taboo subject #2. These two topics are tough if not impossible to discuss. So that’s pretty much what happened – no one would discuss anything with me. I felt more and more isolated.  I felt more and more alone.

Since I knew I needed to do something (rather than avoid it), I took matters into my own hands and began my own grief journey. It wasn’t really even a decision for me. I automatically chose to drive myself into the grief at full throttle. I figured hitting it head on and wrestling it to the ground would give me some chance of coming out the other side. Ignoring it? Well that could lead to all kinds of problems and I certainly didn’t want to go there. I had seen others who never faced their grief and I didn’t want that anchor dragging me down for the rest of my life. Seemed to me like there had to be a way to survive the grief I was feeling.

As with most things in my life, finding The Grief Recovery Method® actually happened purely by accident (or maybe it was destiny).  I was off work after foot surgery and had an extended amount of time to figure out what I wanted to “be when I grew up”.  I was still thinking there had to be a better way to deal with grief.  Since I was pretty much stuck in my bed, I searched the web and found The Grief Recovery Method®.  After reading as much as I could on their website and downloading their free eBook on Grief and Loss, I realized that they really got it. I decided I would pursue their certification training with the hope that I could help others (and maybe myself too in the process). I signed up and never looked back!

I found that during Grief Recovery Specialist® Certification Training, creating the Loss History Graph was especially cathartic.  Seeing every loss I had been through (and then some) on one timeline was overwhelming.  It helped me to better understand why I had reacted the way I had to loss throughout my life.  Developing the Relationship Graph and Completion Letter for my former fiancé really helped me to heal.  With the latter, many of the things I never got to say (apologies, forgiveness and significant emotional statements) flooded out of me.  I felt like I finally had completion after reading it out loud.  It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I am so thankful for that experience!

Today as a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, I am working to build a business to help others heal their unresolved grief.  Through one-on-one and group sessions, I can help guide participants build their own grief recovery action plan. It is humbling and rewarding to help Society recognize that grief is tied to so many different life experiences.  Maybe in understanding grief more completely, we can become better family members, better friends, better lovers, better people and live better lives. Isn’t that really our ultimate goal? It has sure helped me tend to my own broken heart and hopefully touch the broken hearts of others.

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