Tune in to hear more on Sharon Ehlers’ own losses that led her to seek out different methods of healing. The two Sharons also talk about suicide and the loss of their Dads on this episode of the popular Radio Show.
MORE ABOUT THE HOST
As soon as I completed The Grief Recovery Method®, I knew that my lifelong mission would be to learn everything I could about grief, and make it my life’s work to help others heal from their broken hearts.
I am truly honored to walk through the journey of grief recovery with my clients. At A time to grief, I work with clients to help them understand that unresolved grief is almost always associated with wishing things were better, different or more and that it can have to do with any unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations.
I am not only a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist—I am a griever. I teach in my program that grief is a normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. Yet, we were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, most of the information we are given immediately following a loss from family or friends is incorrect. It does little or nothing to help us feel better or to begin the healing process. So, we continue to search and search.
MORE ABOUT THE RADIO STATION
KHTS is an AM 1220/FM 98.1 radio station in Santa Clarita, California, about 30 miles north of Los Angeles. It is a full-service station combining news, traffic, sports, and adult contemporary hits by artists such as Elton John, Mariah Carey, Rod Stewart and Whitney Houston.
Recovery means different things to different people. Some people are upset by the word grief recovery. They think you can’t recover from loss because you will never be the same again. But the word “recovery” is not meant to suggest that you must “get over” your loss. Recovery in the context of grief recovery is about becoming emotionally complete and beginning the next phase of your life with a fresh perspective. Grief recovery is learning to heal your heart and not your head.
WHAT IS GRIEF RECOVERY?
The process of grief recovery could be described as taking action to deal with “unfinished business” so you don’t drag heartache throughout your life. It is taking a series of actionable steps to move beyond the pain associated with loss. Recovery is never about forgetting. It involves taking a guided inventory of all of the positive (and less than positive) elements of the loss and resolving those things you might have wished had been different, better or you had done more often. Doing this will allow you to enjoy fond memories, without regrets. It will also help you to look forward to the future, rather than worrying or being fearful about what it will bring.
Recovery means enhancing your life rather than limiting it. It is feeling better. It is having fond memories no longer turn painful. It is acquiring the skills you should have been taught as a child to deal with loss directly.
Recovery means experiencing the full range of normal human emotions from happiness to sadness and knowing these feelings are normal and natural.
Recovery means processing every feeling you experience as a result of your loss. This means no more walls going up around your heart or carrying emotional baggage from relationship-to-relationship.
Recovery means expressing your feelings regardless of the reaction you may get from those around you. This means not conforming to what society has told you about grief but being honest about how you are doing because that is what makes you human.
Recovery means having better relationships with those who are still living by always being “complete” with people so that you can have better relationships with them. This means delivering emotional communications better, differently or more often – usually before it is too late.
What might be some of the motivating factors in wanting to know more about Grief Recovery?
First and probably more important, you may be suffering from a broken heart.
You may be at a point where you feel you desire a more fulfilling life.
You may be tired of experiencing pain, isolation and loneliness as a result of your loss.
You may feel like you lack the proper information to deal with your grief.
And finally, you may have found the courage and willingness to let go of what has been keeping you stuck in order to move through your grief.
WHEN IS GRIEF RECOVERY AVAILABLE?
This may sound like a cliche, but grief recovery is available anytime you are ready.
It is never too soon to heal your heart.
It can start after a new or previous loss.
It can help you to begin the process of healing.
It is a structured program that gives you the tools to recover from loss and have a fulfilling and joyful life.
If you want to learn more about how grief recovery can transform your life, sign up for our FREE one-hour initial consultation HERE.
The Grief Recovery Method® is an action program to move beyond death, divorce and other losses. It was founded almost 30 years ago by John James and Russell Friedman. Grief Reiki, LLC leverages material developed by The Grief Institute®, which provides training coast-to-coast, border-to-border in the United States and Canada with affiliates in Australia, New Zealand, Mexico, Sweden, Africa and the United Kingdom.
HOW DID I FIND THE GRIEF RECOVERY METHOD®?
As most things in my life, it actually happened purely by accident (or maybe it was destiny). I was off work after foot surgery and had an extended amount of time to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. I had been through my own grief-related events, most recently the suicides of two of my closest friends. After the second suicide I ended up going to a Survivors support group. It was wonderful to be able to finally talk about how I really felt! Although that was a positive experience for me, it sort of left me wondering if there were any programs out there that really helped people recover from grief.
I found that during Grief Recovery Specialist® Certification Training, creating the Loss History Graph was especially cathartic. Seeing every loss I had been through (and then some) on one timeline was overwhelming. It helped me to better understand why I had reacted the way I had to loss throughout my life. Developing the Relationship Graph and Completion Letter for my former fiancé really helped me to heal. With the latter, many of the things I never got to say (apologies, forgiveness and significant emotional statements) flooded out of me. I felt like I finally had completion after reading it out loud. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
Today as a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, I am working to build a business to help others heal their unresolved grief. Through one-on-one and group sessions, I can help guide participants build their own grief recovery action plan. It is humbling and rewarding to help Society recognize that grief is tied to so many different life experiences. Maybe in understanding grief more completely, we can become better family members, better friends, better lovers, better people and live better lives. Isn’t that really our ultimate goal? It has helped me tend to my own broken heart and hopefully touch the broken hearts of others.
Here is an video introduction to The Grief Recovery Method® presented by founders, John W. James and Russell Friedman.