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Surviving Loss By Suicide

Grief Diaries: Surviving Loss By Suicide

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The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported this week that almost forty-five thousand Americans die by suicide every year, with untold more around the world; each one results in a life sentence of heartbreak for family and friends. The survivor’s journey is a tumultuous one that challenges our friendships, our fears, and even our future. Where do we go from here? How do we survive such a devastating, senseless act? While each loss is as unique as one’s own fingerprint, and grief tools aren’t one-size-fits-all, it’s important to know you are not alone. This book is like your own portable support group, open 24/7. It offers an intimate collection of stories by people around the world who have all walked in your shoes. Consider this book one of your bereavement tools, and pull it out whenever you need. For no matter the age, the circumstance, or number of days since your loved one died by suicide, the stories contained within this book offer company, comfort and hope, and are a treasured reminder that none of us walk this journey alone.


Released in December 2015, Grief Reiki® is a proud co-author to Grief Diaries: Surviving Loss By Suicide

Part of the Grief Diaries series dedicated to offering comfort, company and hope in the aftermath of life’s challenges and losses, Grief Diaries: Surviving Loss by Suicide is a collection of intimate and candid narrations from different writers about their journey through losing a loved one to suicide. In chapter one, each writer bravely penned the moment when their familiar lives disappeared along with their loved one’s last breath. The writers were then presented with intimate questions pertaining to their loss, and their responses are compiled within the individual chapters. These narrations are unabridged, as every voice is unique. But no matter the differences, the stories contained in each Grief Diaries book is a treasured reminder that none of us walk the journey alone. Welcome to the Grief Diaries village, where grief transcends all differences and unites us in the aftermath. Welcome, bereaved friend, to company, comfort and hope.


“CRITICALLY IMPORTANT . . . I want to say  what you are doing is so critically important.” -DR. BERNICE A. KING, Daughter of Dr. Martin Luther King

“STUNNING . . . Grief Diaries treats the reader to a rare combination of candor and fragility through the eyes of the bereaved. Delving into the deepest recesses of the heartbroken, the reader easily identifies with the diverse collection of stories and richly colored threads of profound love that create a stunning read full of comfort and hope.” -DR. GLORIA HORSLEY, Founder & President of Open to Hope Foundation

“IMPORTANT ON SO MANY LEVELS…Suicide is a topic that isn’t talked about nearly enough in our world today, and it’s one that’s often surrounded by stigma, assumptions, and judgments. This book gives a mere glimpse into what it’s like to not only face the pain of losing a love one to suicide, but how it feels when the bereaved also have to take on the burden of dealing with the stigmas around it. More importantly, this book is a courageous, insightful, and informative collection of personal stories – stories that can teach us so much more, about loss by suicide, than research or advice books ever could. These are real people, real examples, real lives.MOST importantly, this book is a beautiful resource for those grieving a loss by suicide. Simply knowing we aren’t alone in the journey and that others have felt the way we have can bring so much relief. We can find companionship and comfort in those moments where we can read someone else’s words, nod our heads, and say, “wow, that’s exactly how I’m feeling. I’m not alone”. This book is a collection of stories filled with those “yeah, me too” moments.” AMAZON REVIEWER

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!

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Birthdays and Grief

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How are you supposed to handle birthdays and grief?  March 3 is the birthday of my best friend, Joy. She would have been 58 years old. She was just like her name – full of JOY and PASSION for life. Since she died, I have still tried to remember her birthday every year.  I am sure there are some people who think that is weird or morbid.  Personally I think it is healthy and honest.  She was my best friend for many years so remembering her just seems like the right thing to do.  I don’t dwell on the fact that she isn’t here anymore.  I don’t dwell on how and why she died.  I just focus on all the great memories we had together.

Joy LOVED the color PINK. If she was wearing pink Joy made sure that everything matched – her shoes, her purse, her jewelry, her nail polish… It upset her tremendously not to match. I remember going to a swimming pool with her and her entire ensemble was pink down to her flip flops. It always seemed appropriate to me that she loved pink – it just seemed the right color to go with her name. There are so many special memories like Joy’s love of pink that I have of her throughout the years.

  • How she made me laugh with her crazy blond jokes.
  • How she loved to host cookie parties at Christmas.
  • How she loved to shop.
  • How she loved Walmart.  It was our favorite place to go.  We could spend hours there just walking up and down the aisles looking for nothing in particular.
  • How she introduced me to country music.
  • How she loved to make crafts and sew.  She made a crib bedding set (in pink of course) for my youngest daughter when she was born.
  • How she listened to all my relationship drama when I am sure she must have been tired of hearing about it.
  • How she would call every Sunday morning.  In fact how we talked almost every day.
  • How she made everyone laugh and laugh until they cried.
  • How she mourned with me over our broken dreams and heartaches.
  • How she never judged me even when life got really bad.

The last Birthday I spent with Joy was her 50th Birthday party.  She was in her element.  Joyful (no pun intended) and so happy all her friends and family were around her on her special day.  She told me that she felt that day was the best day of her life.  She loved being reminded how much she meant to everyone. Don’t we all need that?  Being reminded that we mean something to someone else? Joy relished in it that day.

Joy, you meant everything to me.  Words can’t come close to describing the feeling. I think this framed saying I gave to her (and was able to keep after her death) may come close:

One of the greatest blessings in my life is our friendship.
When I need to talk, you are there to “just listen”.
You are the person that I can laugh with about the most important life events.
You “know me” and that saves words sometimes.
Thank you for sharing your friendship with me.  
You are my best friend.

Happy Birthday my dearest friend.  I haven’t forgotten you.

I am celebrating you here on earth today and I know you are celebrating in Heaven!


Sending you love, comfort and peace!



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