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Missing A Loved One on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day can be one of the toughest days of the year when you are grieving. It is another reminder the people you love or once loved are no longer around.  The loss could be the result of a death, break-up or divorce. Often you anticipate it weeks or even months in advance giving you a sense of dread. Although it is actually healthier for you to cherish these days as a way of honoring your loved ones than avoid them, it all depends on where you are in your journey. Sometimes avoiding Valentine’s Day can be just as healthy.

WAYS TO APPROACH VALENTINE’S DAY

Be Prepared. Anticipating the grief associated with these events is normal. Knowing ahead of time may be tough can help you to decide how you want to spend that day. It could be celebrating with family and friends or being alone in your grief. Being prepared will help you to honor what works best for you.

Plan a Celebration. There is nothing that says you can’t celebrate on Valentine’s Day. It’s perfectly okay to throw a party. It’s perfectly okay to actually have some fun in memory of your loved one. If you do, they will be there celebrating with you.

Get Out of Town. If it is too much for you to be home alone during these reminder days, plan a trip away or go visit family or friends. It is perfectly okay to not be around if being in familiar surroundings with reminders everywhere is too much to handle. Just get the heck out of town.

Share Memories. Consider inviting friends over so you can share memories of your loved one. Ask them to share their own memories. Pull out old photographs or home movies. Tell stories. Laugh until you cry. Cry until you laugh. Memories are the best way to remember your loved one. There is no better way to honor them.

Start a New Tradition. If facing your usual traditions are too difficult, start a new one. Make a donation to a charitable organization, volunteer or plant a tree in your loved one’s name on Valentine’s Day.

Honor Your Grief. It’s normal to be both sad and joyful on these days. Expressing both kinds of emotions makes us human. Honor these emotions. Don’t avoid them. Worse, don’t pretend. Just feel.

No Fanfare. It’s also okay to let these days just be ordinary days. No celebration. Just another day.

It is completely healthy to either acknowledge or not acknowledge Valentine’s Day. Do what is right for you.

Surround yourself with people who understand what you need – not what they think you should or shouldn’t be doing.

Let this days come and go. Even if this means choosing to do nothing.

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Meditation: Honoring You on Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day.

Although I miss you terribly, I remember all the Valentine’s Days we shared together with a smile.

I remember the laughter but most importantly I remember the love.

I am celebrating you and our love today.

Even though you can’t be here with me, I know you are smiling too.

And so it is.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Holiday Coupons for Grievers

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In our last blog post we provided a few Holiday gift recommendations for a griever. In this post, we are offering something  more personal – Holiday Coupons.  Each one offers a simple act of kindness you can personally do for a griever. Even the simplest of gestures can make all the difference in the world. Here are some coupon ideas to give to someone who has experienced a loss.

I’ll Do Your Grocery Shopping

I’ll Sit With You While You Cry

I’ll Watch Your Kids For A Day

I’ll Treat You To A Pedicure Or Manicure

I’ll Clean Your Kitchen

I’ll Do Your Laundry

I’ll Bring Over A Home-Cooked Meal

I’ll Clean Your House

I’ll Help You With Paperwork

I’ll Help You Go Through Your Loved Ones Things

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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Holiday Gifts

Holiday Gifts for Grievers

 

It’s often hard to know what to buy for someone who is grieving during the Holidays. In fact, many grievers don’t feel like celebrating the Holidays at all. I know I didn’t after my loved ones died.

It can mean everything to a griever to have a family, friend or community member reach out them during the Holidays. The simplest of gestures can make all the difference in the world. Here are some gift ideas especially for those who have experienced a loss.

Please know I am not a paid affiliate for any of these small businesses or authors.

I just love what they have to offer!

GIFT BOXES

The Compassionate Courier – It is through their compassion for the grieving, that The Compassionate Courier was born. It is their desire to bring comfort and hope to doorsteps around the world, reminding others that they are not alone and are remembered during their darkest times. Each box will also contain a personal message from the founders of The Compassionate Courier. Each note of encouragement will include uplifting thoughts, quotes, tips and suggestions on navigating through the unfamiliar journey of grief.

Laurel Box – Offers thoughtfully hand curated gift boxes designed to nourish a woman’s heart after loss.  If a friend of yours has recently lost a loved one, you can rest assured that our boxes are designed to nourish a woman’s heart after a loss.  If you are currently walking through loss, it is our deep hope that the box you receive makes you feel loved and remembered.  We know that no gift can ever replace the people we have lost, but we hope the prayers we pour over those touched by our company can be felt when you open a laurelbox.

Boxes of Hope – Created by a mother/daughter team working together to fill peoples lives with hope, by delivering stylish and lovingly curated boxes to people facing difficulties. Their hope is that people all over the world will receive these special gifts and be reminded that they are loved, braver than they think they are, and that there are people out there rooting for them.

JEWELRY

Heavensbook Angels – When the founder & owner of Heavensbook Angel’s son passed away in 2007, she chose to honor his memory through grief support, authoring and jewelry design. Their line of jewelry is among the first to bring death, grief, and loss to the retail space.

Rachelle-isms – Started out in 2010 with making gifts for family. In 2014, a lot of new changes were brought to the business by bringing meaning and even healing/comfort to others. Sharing her story reached many who were looking for a voice to the pain of child-loss. She encourages other to tell their story through her jewelry.

BOOKS


Surviving My First Year of Child Loss edited by Nathalie Himmelrich

The death of a baby, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss, or the death of an older child, is the worst experience a parent can endure. Parents often don’t know how – or if – they will survive such an earth-shattering event. This book includes twenty-six heart-wrenchingly honest essays by parents who convey their personal challenges and the ways they coped during the first twelve months after losing a child.


Digging For The Light by Annah Elizabeth

Annah Elizabeth always knew she wanted to marry, to be a mom, and that she wanted to give birth to those babies before she turned thirty. This book is a conversation that transports readers through a story that is often heartbreaking, sometimes humorous, and always filled with a fierce sense of hope. Following the unexpected death of her firstborn, miscarriages, a six-week psychiatric stay for severe depression, and the discovery that her best friend and her husband were having an affair, Annah Elizabeth knew one thing: She didn’t want to spend a lifetime in mourning. And the way she saw it, she had two choices: She was going to die. Or she was going to live…


Be Gentle With Me I am Grieving by Robin Chodak

Robin understands grief due to many losses. She talks about her journey to recovery after the suicide of her former husband. Through her own suffering she has been transformed and found purpose and happiness in her life. Her book will help you understand your grief better. She is a testimony that is possible to live and love life after loss. She wants that for you too!


Grief Diaries Book Anthology by Various Authors

Storytelling is a powerful tool. Each book in the Grief Diaries series features stories by ordinary people who have walked your journey and offer comfort, understanding, and hope. Titles include: Loss of a Pet, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Sibling, Loss of Health, Loss of a Spouse, Loss of a Parent, Loss By Suicide, Through the Eyes of Men, Hello From Heaven, Project Cold Case and many more.

 

Grief Reiki by Sharon Ehlers

How do you move forward after a loss when your mind, body and soul feel broken? Award-winning author Sharon Ehlers found herself on this very quest after losing two dear friends to suicide within a two-year period. A journey through self discovery using her own expertise as a Reiki Master and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist resulted in Sharon’s trademarked integrative approach Grief Reiki®.

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Sending you love, comfort and peace!


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